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       GET AHEAD!

Problems and heartaches in life are inevitable and sometimes it feels like it's taking everything we have just to keep going.  If you are in a crisis situation Hit the Help Button and use the information below for immediate help. If you need help or support with feelings and emotions you might find something here to remind you of another way that you can think about  here that we can think about things in more than one way. At times like this little things can be life savers. Of course they won't make all our problems go away, but the support of a friend might might help us get through a tough time or a change of environment can remind us that there's more to life than just what we are going through at that moment.  It might take some time for things to get better but eventually you will get through it.  On this page you will find some reminders to help you think about things in a more helpful way. 


HIT THE HELP BUTTON   

Sometimes it feels like everything is going wrong. If you are having a particularly difficult time and you are struggling with depression, anxiety or your life feels out of control. 

 For immediate help: *Go to your local Emergency Room   or  If you or someone you know is suicidal or in emotional distress, contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline  at 1‑800‑273‑TALK (8255) or online at

 Live Online Chat Trained crisis workers are available to talk 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Your confidential and toll-free call goes to the nearest crisis center in the Lifeline national network. These centers provide crisis counseling and mental health referrals.

NH Health and Human Services also has a link for Emergency Crisis   https://www.dhhs.nh.gov/dcbcs/bbh/emergency.htm


For non-emergency help with mental health contact: SAMHSA Treatment Referral Helpline, 1‑877‑SAMHSA7 (1‑877‑726‑4727)Get general information on mental health and locate treatment services in your area.  Speak to a live person, Monday through Friday from 8 a.m. to 8 p.m. EST.


 It's really hard to know what to do when we're upset, angry or frustrated .  Sometimes , sometimes we don't have to do anything at all.  When we don't say or do anything, we don't risk getting backed into a corner. (see effects of stress on learning page). And if you feel like things aren't changing you might want to get professional help.  If that is the case, do not feel alone, embarassed or ashamed. Millions of people seek professional help. Some of the people that look like they have everything are actually struggling the most.


                                        THE TRUTH ABOUT SELF ESTEEM

Self Esteem is just an emotion based on the feelings that you have about yourself. How you feel about yourself isn't based on facts, it's decided by what you believe to be true and just because we think something doesn't mean it's true. We all have beliefs about the way we think things are or "should" be. These thoughts are the result of our own experiences and life situations which are different for everyone.  So, If you don't think you're good enough, how can you be sure that this is true? 

You could compare yourself to other people, but how do you decide which people to compare yourself to? There will always be someone better at something and there will always be someone worse. Constantly comparing yourself to other people would send you on a never ending roller coaster ride and you still wouldn't have any real proof that your not good enough. 

Since it's unlikely that we're right about everything, then it's possible when we think we aren't good enough, we're wrong!  I guess we aren't really even qualified to decide we aren't good enough!  We may need to change some of our beliefs before we can change the way we feel about ourselves.  The next time you find yourself thinking negative thoughts about yourself, isn't there always something good to think instead!        

There are some things in life that we have control over and other things that we do not.  Understanding the connection between cause and effect helps us to recognize why something is the way it is.  It can also help us to predict what might happen in the future and we can make wise choices as a result.  If you find yourself in a rut try to think about your situation as if it were happening to someone else. What would you think they should do differently? Would you see things a different way?


The Power of Habit

If you've ever told yourself that you’re going to make something happen and then it didn't happen it's probably because you didn’t have the right things in place – Do little things each day that will move you in the direction that you want to go. Gradually build up your mind and condition your body to make things happen. If something seems to small to make a difference, at least it's better than nothing at all!

LIFE IS 10% ABOUT WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU AND 90% HOW YOU REACT TO IT!

BOOKS TO READ

Finding Happiness Stumbling On Happiness - Dan Gilbert

The Happiness Project - Gretchen Rueben


The Gifts of Imperfection - Brene Brown

Authentic Happiness - Dr. Martin Seligman  https://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/

 WEBSITES TO VISIT                                                                                      

Authentic Happiness    https://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu 

Happify - http://www.happify.com

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